モテない男の4つの特徴 -4 HIDDEN Signs A Man Has 'Low Value'-

頑張っているのになかなか周りの女性に評価されない...

そんな方は結構多いのではないかと思います。

実は気付かぬうちにやってしまっているNG行動が、

あなたの社会での評価を不当に下げてしまっているのかもしれません 。

今回は、そんな、男性の評価を下げてしまう隠れた4つのNG行動を見ていきましょう。

ネタバレでまとめてしまうと、

　①感情表現が下手(Low EI)

　②影響を受けやすい(Pushover)

　③女性に飢えまくっている(Excessive neediness around female)

　④自分の意見に自信がない(Doesn't value his own opinion)

いかがでしょうか？

こういった特徴に身に覚えがある人は、今日からその癖を改めてみると

周りの女性からの評価が変わるかもしれません。

それでは今日もYouTube英語を楽しんでいきましょう！

00:00 この数分であなたの人生が変わる'かも'しれません
the next few minutes could change your
00:02 よーく聞いてください、
life seriously listen carefully because
00:03 あなたがこれから学ぶ兆候や事柄は
you're about to learn so the signs or
00:05 男性が他人から低い価値に見られてしまう原因なのです。
things that could cause a man to be
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perceived by other people as having low
00:09 しかしここにはある問題(kicker)があるのです
value but here's the kicker think about
00:12 それは"見られる"ということばです。
the word "perceived" because it's one of
00:13 これはとても大事な言葉で、
the most important words that you will
00:15 必ず理解しなければいけません。
ever understand many men yourself
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included have massive value but it is
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only massive potential until you figured
00:22
out how to unlock it the word precedes
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simply means how other people view you
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you see you could have massive value but
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if other people don't perceive you in a
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way that makes them believe that you
00:32
have value then you will basically be
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designated as one of those guys who has
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low value and this is no-man's land for
00:38
any guy out there or where you
00:39
definitely don't want to be our society
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isn't always the nicest place and
00:44
Society has a set of rules and if you
00:46
don't follow these rules then you end up
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making life much harder for yourself
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than it needs to be so many of us in
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high school always wondered why it was
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always a dude who was the meanest to
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somebody who ended up with the most
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attractive girls or why was always the
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ballplayers and the dudes who had the
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most perceived value who all of the
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girls couldn't stop chasing now
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instinctively most of us kind of had a
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feeling for what was going on but it
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didn't really make sense for my logical
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point of view now a lot of people will
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say oh that's just highschool in real
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life isn't like high school but the
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truth is that real life is actually just
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a slightly different version of high
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school and we're all still chasing for
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the most part the same things that we
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chased while we were in high school we
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all still want the cute girl in the
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popularity or recognition and we all
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still want to fit in and feel like we're
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part of something so the point here is
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that you can't simply change primal
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human nature and at our core as humans
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we will always be attracted to perceived
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value regardless of the shape or form
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that it takes and the men who have great
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value like clockwork will have a much
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easier time attracting the ladies making
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friends and overall they will tend to
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enjoy a better life than men who are
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perceived as having a little value but
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once you know the simple things that
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cause others to view you as having low
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value you can take action to change
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these things and dramatically raise your
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own personal value now first up is the
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number one sign that a man has low value
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and it is having low AI or emotional
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intelligence some studies actually show
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that he I is responsible for as much as
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80% of a success that you will have in
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your life
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he is really just a fancy word
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social skills or how well you can read
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other people how well you can read
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yourself and how well you can manage the
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delicate dance of social interactions
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between yourself and others so when
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you're sucking really bad at flirting
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with a girl that you just met and your
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buddy tells you to step your game up
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he's basically just telling you that you
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need to improve your AI now some of the
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most common science and a man has low AI
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are erratic behavior not being able to
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control his emotions and not being able
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to properly read other people in not
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understanding himself or how others
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perceive him a good example of this is
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the dude in the group of people you just
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met who keeps telling inappropriate
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jokes that really aren't funny or the
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guy whose behavior and reactions during
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social settings seems a little bit off
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or uncalibrated even men with insane
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amounts of money or who are incredibly
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good at what they do can have low di in
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fact many men who have a lot of
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potential have low emotional
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intelligence simply because they don't
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do the things that are needed to improve
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this skill set and it is a skill set now
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all you have to do to improve your 'i I
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spend more time understanding yourself
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or finding out who you really are why
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you do things and spend more time
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learning how to read others correctly
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during social situations learning more
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about yourself like what makes you mad
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and why and what you like to do or don't
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like to do what type of people you like
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to be friends with and things like what
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your mental strengths and weaknesses are
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will go a long way to help you improve
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this and next up at number two is easily
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one of the most obvious science that a
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man has slow value and it's being a
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pushover now this doesn't mean that you
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need to be overly dominant in every
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situation all the time
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that's not what this means at all you
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see all men have both sides of the same
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coin within them and there are times
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when we feel like being submissive and
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times when we feel like being dominant
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but something that low value men tend to
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all have in common is being too much of
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a pushover 99% of the time this means
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that they rarely make decisions for
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themselves and constantly allow other
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men or even women to make decisions for
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them but the biggest mistakes that men
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make when they're being a pushover are
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not enforcing their personal boundaries
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allowing others to disrespect and
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humiliate them and allowing other people
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to easily control them in other words
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these men are too passive a passive guy
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is the one who is always on the
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sidelines watching the game but never
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getting out there and playing the game
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he's the guy that's watching all the
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other guys make moves while he tells
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other people that one day he's going to
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be the one making moves but never
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actually does being a pushover makes it
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really
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that a man has low value and it's easy
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for other people to see because all they
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had to do is see that he never has the
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courage to speak his mind and rather
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than being direct he almost always
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resorts to passive aggressive forms of
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communication now the easiest way to fix
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this problem is to stop being so afraid
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of conflict something like 95% of the
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situations where a man acts like a
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pushover or too passive or too timid our
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situations that have the potential to
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involve conflict with another person for
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example you might be afraid to speak up
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to your boss to tell them that you
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deserve to be paid more for the work
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that you're doing well you might be
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afraid to share your opinion in front of
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a large group of people and the best way
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to fix this problem if you have it is to
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work on embracing conflict even if you
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have to go overboard at first and then
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tone it back a little bit to recalibrate
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yourself eventually your value will
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increase significantly now next up is
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the third and the final and easily the
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most important sign that a man has low
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perceived value and it is excessive
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neediness around girls now by far the
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fastest and easiest way to tell if a man
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has low perceived value is to simply
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watch how he interacts with women
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especially attractive ones now trust me
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I get it for many guys it's a hard pill
05:32
to swallow but the reality is that
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females are and will always be
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biologically wired to seek out the men
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with the most value that they can
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realistically attract so due to this
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primal behavior men with low value
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rarely get a shot with attractive
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females and since they're constantly
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passed over for the bad boys and the
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narcissists men with low perceived value
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tend to develop an incredible amount of
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neediness towards women in other words a
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man who has never been with many women
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tends to treat every girl that he comes
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a new contact with like she is a pot of
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gold that he just found under a rainbow
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except there's no pot of gold and
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there's no rainbow and all there is is a
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massive amount of needy behavior now the
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reality is that typically it takes a
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decent amount of value as a man to enjoy
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the benefits of having been with at
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least a couple of really attractive
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females and as weird as it sounds once
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you've done this for us men it's almost
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like having owned a Ferrari this is kind
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of a blunt way to put it but once you've
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owned the Ferrari everything else that's
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not as amazing as a Ferrari just doesn't
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really seem that exciting anymore
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or that big of a deal men with low
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perceived value tend to active really
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weird and awkward around attractive
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girls in the car example is an easy way
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to help this make sense for you if I go
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to a dealership and the salesman tries
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to sell me on the
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he can almost instantly tell that I've
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already owned a few Mustangs and he can
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tell by my body language that these
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types of cars don't really excite me
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that much anymore or elicit much of a
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reaction out of me now the problem is
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that at the core of this behavior in
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most cases is people-pleasing so the
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best thing you can do to combat this
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behaviour to stop trying to please
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everyone all the time and stop caring so
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much what other people think and in
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doing so this will help you to become a
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higher value man while at the same time
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avoiding the signs that will make other
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people perceive you as a man with low
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value now next up is the fourth sign
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that a man has low perceived value and
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it has to do with how he values his
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opinion something about high value men
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is that they always value their opinion
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more than the opinions of other random
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people high quality men are men who have
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a system of values and they're not gonna
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let other people change those values
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based on what those people think of it
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what are the greatest qualities that a
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man can have is simply trusting his own
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judgment or his own opinion and placing
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that opinion above the opinions of other
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people because what this comes down to
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is basically choosing to be either a
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sheep or wolf but the biggest mistake
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here that will make other people
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perceive you to be low value is allowing
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other people and their opinions or what
07:46
they think of you to control your
07:47
emotions in other words the ego of a man
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who is low value is built around simply
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being liked or being good or some other
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fragile thing and when you do this you
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are basically releasing the control over
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how you feel and giving that control to
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other people so that they are able to
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dictate how you feel you're basically
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telling everybody around you that you
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are a man who doesn't even have enough
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value to value his own opinion over the
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opinions of other people the best way to
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fix this is to simply start valuing your
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own opinion in placing above the
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opinions of other people now sometimes
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that opinions going to be wrong
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sometimes it's going to be right but
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regardless you have to trust your own
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opinion or your own judgement and you
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simply cannot let the opinions of other
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people or what other people think of you
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or whether or not other people like you
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control how you feel so with that said I
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hope you guys are doing well and until
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next time as always thanks for watching